Hi all,

Sorry for my infrequent posting as of late. Changes are a-brewing on my end and I’d like to get them off my chest, hopefully helping me to move forward with less anxiety.

First, my mom has moved back in with us. She has a pretty serious eye infection that threatens her cornea. She already has some damage to it but until the infection clears up, we’re not sure to what extent. Of course her anxiety and sadness about her possibly losing eyesight has been internalized by me.

Second, I made a pretty big career/life decision. After 6 years with the same company, I’ve decided to take a position at a newer, small marketing firm in downtown Durham. You know when you’re confronted with a fork in the road (of life) and you’re not sure which path to take? One thing that helped me move on from the company that I’ve known from my entire post-collage career is that I was tired of the institutionalized dysfunction. I won’t go into detail here but it was making me pretty upset. We are all adults here, and should be treated as such.

I’m scared of moving on but at the same time, I’m ready for it. The new position is with a marketing firm, and I’ve never had to work with clients before, so I’m worried that I won’t be good at it. But then this new place must have seen something in me and must have faith in my experience in marketing, to choose me for the job. Oh well, I start next Wednesday Feb. 26th and even though I know it’s hard work, I’m hoping that it’s rewarding and that I learn a lot from it.

Now, onto fashion….

I also wanted to share an outfit that I wore a few weeks ago but never posted. Graphic/animal sweaters are so cute and I’d like to share mine:

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Thanks for listening to my little rant. If you have any advice about dealing with new job anxiety, I’d love to hear it!

Much love to all of you! Hope you all (regardless of relationship status) had a great V-day or just plain ol’ Friday the 14th 🙂


Outfit Details:
Nerd Cat Sweater: Ideeli
Boots: hand me downs
Leggings: Zara from last summer
Bag: Vintage coach, thrifted $10
Necklaces: Mom’s
Shirt: Chambray, thrifted $3.39


39 thoughts on “changes.

    1. Thanks so much! Yeah, when I saw the sweater I had to have it, even though I’m cheap and unlikely to spend big bucks on a sweater. Thanks for the kind words about my mom. It’s hard too, because she’s had so many scary health problems. She lived with my husband and I for 4-5 months 2 summers ago because she had to have chest surgery to remove a tumor. It’s like she’s constantly getting the short end of the stick, health-wise.

  1. I try to approach every change I have to face with the attitude, “it could be better”. I find particularly at work people tend to approach every change with, “it’s going to be worse.” So I teach my team to say, “it could be better.” I find it really changes attitudes. I’m not sure if that is helpful at all.

    Also I LOVE your sweater so much!!!

  2. Hey, you are going to be awesome at your new job! Nerves are definitely to be expected, same with your mom. Try not to let it overwhelm you, but realize too that it’s natural. It just means you care. I hope that your mom’s eye infection clears up so the doctors can continue to help her keep her vision–a very scary prospect indeed, losing one’s vision–and I know that your new job will be a breath of fresh air. Working in an environment where things are bringing you down is never good. My best to you!

    1. I really appreciate your calming and inspiring words:) my new job is still scary but I’m trying my hardest to take it one day at a time. The new people I work with are fun and smart, and I’m hoping that cultivating those relationships will help with the feeling of uneasiness. As for my poor mom, she suffered another set back when the hospital that had been treating her all along suddenly told her they don’t take her insurance. We’ve all been pretty upset about it. Hoping that she can transfer to the hospital in the next town over and that they can treat her. ❤ hugs.

  3. Your sweater is so adorable!! I’m so sorry to hear about your mom, it is never easy to handle a parent’s illness. I hope she recovers. Also, good luck at the new job!! One of the perks of a new workplace is that your coworkers won’t have seen your fabulous wardrobe yet! 😉

  4. I’m thinking of you, your family, and your Mom. I hope everything works out. About the new job, it sounds like you’re making the right decision. And I totally understand being scared that you won’t be good enough, but I promise you will be! Changes take time to get used to, but it sounds like it’ll be a great change in the long run. And, of course, your outfit is adorable. You know I love a good boot, and the sweater is so dang cute and totally you 🙂 I’m so glad you shared all of this!!!

    1. Thanks so much Justine! Having all your sweet words and support of all you bloggy friends has helped so much. Chaos and mayhem still reign at work but I’m taking things day by day:) and thanks also for thinking of my mom. She’s having a tough time dealing with all the bad luck.

  5. Aw, I’ll be thinking of you and your hubby, I know how tough it is to have a parent move in with poor health. As for the job, congratulations, it sounds like you made the right decision and I hope you’re much happier at this one. The only advice I can offer about new job jitters is to be positive and ask plenty of questions. Take notes if you need to, as they’ll be throwing a lot of information at you and it’s hard to take it all in. A smile goes a long way in making your coworkers feel at ease around you and you’ll relax as they relax 🙂 Good luck!

    1. I figured if anyone can commiserate, it’s you. Thanks for the kind words. In my first 3 days on the job, I’ve taken a ton of tones, asked a lot of questions, and even started learning to use a Mac. I’m being positive and taking it one day at a time. My poor mom is dealing with an insurance fiasco but I’m hoping we’ll figure it out this week. xo ❤

  6. Hey Nout–it’s good that you posted all of this, we all care about you and want to support you! Good luck with your job change. Remember that every closed door opens up to a new one (or something along those lines…) and you are going to gain so much experience and grow as a person.

    Best of luck and please keep us posted during this time!


    1. Thanks so much, MO. Support from friends like you is what makes stressful life situations more manageable. You’re so right – prying myself away from whats ‘comfortable’ in my life is what will help me grow and learn. Gros bisous. xo

  7. Yes, there is a lot going on your life, but prayer changes things. Your mom and her health, you and your new job and you and hubby’s new family dynamics – take it to him in prayer and leave it there – you are going to do great in the new position – keep the negativity out of your head and actions.

  8. Congrats on your new job! That is wonderful news! It sounds like it will be a good fit for you – just be confident and know that you can do it! I’m sure it’s so hard to do something new after 6 years!

    You look cute in your animal sweater 🙂

    1. Thanks so much Ashley! I’m taking it one day at a time. The new company is a complete 180 degree difference from where I worked before, so as you can imagine, I feel like a fish out of water. Oh well, I’m taking it one day at a time 🙂 xoxox

  9. Hey Nout, hope your mom is doing okay. About the job anxiety, everyone is nervous when placed in a new environment, with new people and most of all, new expectations but remember that in only a short little bit this will be YOUR job YOUR workplace and YOUR coworkers. It will feel like you’ve been there forever, and you’ll wonder what you were ever anxious about to begin with. What I’m trying to say is, just realize that this anxious feeling will pass with time and they picked YOU for the job!
    Good luck with everything!
    P.S. Your outfit is adorable, one of my favourites thus far.

    1. Thanks so much Martyna. Your words really resonate with me. You’re right, I just need some time and will feel comfortable with this new job. And meanwhile, I hope my mom’s eye gets better and we overcome those obstacles so she can be in a better place. Big hugs to you, I really appreciate your sweet words. And I love anything with cats on it, so when I saw this sweater, I had to have it:)

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